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President's Message - December 2021/January 2022

by Amanda C. Fried

As you are reading this, New Year’s Eve has come and gone.  The champagne bottles are empty, the confetti has been swept away, and many of the New Year’s resolutions (I’m talking to you, my hard-to-kick sugar habit) have already been broken.  But as I write this in mid-December, I am still deep in thought as to my goals for 2022 and, because I am a big proponent of accountability, I thought I would share a few with you.

1. Be Kind. Especially to Yourself.  I recently saw a TikTok (mock away, folks, but go watch @tylerjhorvath) about replacing your self-critical monologue with an NBA-interview-style dialogue.  It goes something like this:

Critical Brain: Some people are saying you might be a failure at this job.  What do you have to say for yourself, hm?

Response: People are, uh, entitled to their opinions.  We focus on what we can control, you know? 

      It is easy to speak ill of another, particular when that “other” is yourself, but we are all doing the very best we can in this exhausting are-we-done-with-COVID-yet world, and a little grace goes a long way.

2. Ask for Help. I am...um...stubborn.  And a bit of a control freak.  But part of “doing the very best I can” means knowing that insisting on doing it all by myself is, not only foolish, but impossible.  Thankfully, I do not have to. I have the most incredible Board of Directors and a dream of an Executive Committee.  The moment I dare to ask “Could someone...”, I hear a chorus of “Don’t worry, I can!” roaring back at me.  I know that the Thanksgiving column focused on gratitude, but I continue to be amazed by the endless support.

3.  Be Fearless.  (Here’s lookin’ at you, my fellow Swifties!)  Like so many others, I am affected by what the masses refer to as Seasonal Affect Disorder, but what I prefer to call the Winter Doldrums (a childlike throwback to the Phantom Tollbooth), and it is easy for me to get stuck in the overwhelming drudgery. But, as my mother recently reminded me, life is about living and not about surviving, so it’s time to take some chances and risk a flop (or ten).  This month, we’re trying something new – a non-scientific experiment, if you will.  Turn to page 9 for a fun little crossword puzzle that shines a spotlight on some of our members and their extraordinary accomplishments (and turn to the back page for the answers). 

            That’s all for this year, folks.  It looks like I’ll be saving the sugar-craving battle for 2023.  Ice cream, here I come!

This crossword puzzle, created by our President, Amanda C. Fried, shines a spotlight on some of our members and their extraordinary accomplishments. The answers are printed on the back page.

1. 2021 Holiday Party mastermind #1
6. Author of "William Wondered Whether Worrying Was Worth It"
7. Hosting this year’s WWBA Talent Show
9. Current WWBA President-Elect
11. Winner of 2021 Holiday Party raffle
12. January 27, 2021 WWBA program speaker
13. WWBA Member & Lead Speaker Hot Employment Issues for 2022

2. 2021 Holiday Party mastermind #2
3. President of WWBAF
4. WWBA Candidate for WBASNY officer position
5. WWBA Holiday Party platinum sponsor
8. WWBA Member Nominated for WBASNY Marilyn R. Menge Award
10. WWBA Member & General Counsel to NYS Dept of Health

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